Ready to Start? Why Waiting Holds You Back
Many people have a dream or a strong feeling that they want to make a positive change in their life. But often, they find themselves waiting. They wait for the perfect moment, wait until they feel completely ready, or simply wait and wait. If this sounds like you, there’s a powerful idea to consider: you might be getting exactly what you’re asking for by waiting.
The Comfort of Waiting
Waiting can feel safe. It’s a place where you can avoid potential failure or judgment. For example, someone might say, “I submitted my novel to 20 publishers, and they all rejected it.” This statement takes the pressure off. It’s a way to say, “I tried, but it didn’t work out,” without facing the fear of not being good enough.
This is a common human tendency. We all find ways to hide, even when we might not realize it. It’s a comfortable spot, and if it’s truly working for you, there’s no need to change. However, if you feel stuck and unsatisfied, it’s time to look at why you’re waiting.
Taking the First Step, Even Small Ones
When you feel a pull toward a new idea or a desire for change, but hesitation sets in, consider this: the act of starting is often more important than feeling perfectly ready. Think about wanting to give a talk or share an idea. The thought of doing it might feel overwhelming, making you want to avoid it.
A practical suggestion is to begin under a different name or in a less public way. For instance, if you’ve always wanted to start a blog, begin anonymously. The key is the action of creation and sharing. This approach allows you to practice and build momentum without the immediate pressure of your name being attached.
The Power of 100 Days
Why start anonymously? After about 100 days of consistently working on your project, like a blog, something significant often happens. You tend to become very proud of the work you’ve done. You’ll likely feel happy with your progress and the effort you’ve invested.
This pride makes you want to take ownership. It’s the natural result of putting something you’ve created out into the world. The simple act of saying, “I made this, and I’m sharing it with others who might benefit,” is incredibly rewarding. This feeling of accomplishment can be a powerful motivator to continue and to eventually put your own name on your work.
Embracing Your Creation
When you’ve dedicated time and effort to a project, seeing it come to life is a powerful experience. You’ll want to claim that achievement. The initial hesitation fades as you see the value and potential impact of your creation.
Starting, even imperfectly, builds confidence and shows you that you are capable. The fear of not being ready often disappears once you’re in motion. The goal isn’t perfection from day one; it’s the commitment to begin and to keep going.
Key Health Takeaways
- Recognize that waiting for the “perfect time” can become a form of self-sabotage, preventing you from starting important personal projects or changes.
- Understand that the comfort of waiting often stems from a fear of failure or judgment, creating a safe but limiting space.
- Take action, even small steps, to begin projects or pursue changes you desire, rather than waiting for complete readiness.
- Consider starting new ventures anonymously or under a pseudonym to reduce initial pressure and focus on the act of creation.
- After a period of consistent effort (like 100 days), you are likely to feel proud of your work, motivating you to take ownership and share it openly.
This article is based on insights shared by Mel Robbins. It is intended for general informational purposes and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for any health concerns or before making any decisions related to your health or treatment.
Source: The best advice for anyone waiting for the right time | Mel Robbins #Shorts (YouTube)
